The Magic of The Wrong Way Round

When you sleep you let go; you can’t help it, it’s just what happens. In this place of letting go, magic can breathe and thus create; that’s why people say ‘sleep on it’, or ‘things will look different in the morning’.

And it’s true, they often do. Not just because you are physically rested, but because in the space that occurs when the brain rests, there is an opportunity for the wiser wisdom of the universe to make itself known to you.

That’s how Wild Wisdom was born – awake early one morning I heard the words ‘wise and cheeky wisdom’ going round and round in my head, and I just knew they would somehow be important to my life and business.

It happened again this morning too. This time the words were: ‘look at everything upside down and then watch for changes’.

Aha!

This means you often do not need to make changes yourself. Simply turn around how you are looking at a situation and any change that needs to happen will occur of its own volition.

Having been someone who liked to be in control, who prided herself on doing what needed to be done (both internally and externally), I was literally stopped in my tracks when I discovered in 1995 it was not going to be easy to have children.

True, I had married a man who had had a vasectomy many years previously. True, I was ambivalent about having children anyway. True, that meant I wasn’t clear about what I wanted.

But also true was the fact that my late husband did have a vasectomy reversal, which worked, but two months later the tests showed no evidence of sperm whatsoever. They weren’t just weak, or in small numbers – they simply did not exist.

It was a terrible shock – choosing not to have a child, and not actually being able to have one are two very different things.  After some time of working through the grief, I realized I was beginning to get fed up with ‘trying to make things happen’ – even if you are doing it the ‘manifesting’ or ‘law of attraction’ way.

It looked like the change that needed to happen was that I did everything artificially possible to have a child (and I did look into those options). Certainly this is the method that is promoted in the West, at least.

But what I actually changed was how I thought about the situation. With much supportive help from my therapist at the time, and the I Ching, I turned my thinking on it’s head.  I discovered an open door to a room that contained thoughts such as ‘maybe I’ve unconsciously chosen a man who can’t have children as a reflection of my own ambivalence’ , ‘perhaps there are benefits in having no children’, and ‘who am I to interfere with nature?’

The willingness to go against the grain, to look at childlessness the ‘wrong’ way round, to create some breathing space for new ideas and thoughts about having children was indeed magical. That was wild wisdom being present, and allowed me to come to terms with never being a member of the Mothers Club.

There have been many other times since when I’ve used this kind of back-to-front thinking fruitfully, so what current situation in your life could benefit from a different perspective?  Once you’ve identified this, experiment with how you could use the I-Ching, or apply your own form of Wild Wisdom, and watch to see what happens!

If you’d like some help in that regard, then email me direct to apply for one of my free, 45 minute, Wild Wisdom Discovery Sessions (worth £250) and together we will discover what wants to be heard, seen, expressed in your own situation so you can view it differently and move forward gracefully and with ease.

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